Once upon a time there was a boy. And he was a a good listener and good with advice and made a girl feel like she was able to deal with a lot of the changes that were happening in her personal and professional life. The boy maybe liked her. It was always hard to tell.
One day, many months later when there were maybe feeling between the two, the boy sat in a bar and fed her one of the biggest insults of her life. The girl brushed it off. The boy did not handle another situation well. The girl took him home. And that was the end of it for the girl.
Not long after, the girl met another boy whom she had known but never really had the opportunity to really spend time with. She laughed a lot. She felt butterflies. She was kissed under the cherry blossoms.
The first boy blames the girl for a lot of things.
You see, the problem with people who don't have their lives together because they're afraid of hitting that level of comfort with themselves like to blame all of the things wrong in their lives on others. But it comes down to if you don't try, you don't succeed. You live with your own actions, or lack thereof. And it's not fair to those who are guilty by association or relation that you take it out on them.
Sure, the world holds you back. But then you hold yourself back. You create your failures and your strength comes from learning to bounce back. Fear is your biggest enemy. But it's also exciting and exhilarating and when harnessed can push you so much further than you expected. The first boy uses fear as his excuse to fail. The second holds it in his hand and keeps moving, and holds me with the other.
So tell me, what would your choice be? Because I couldn't be happier with mine.